SHARING VS TELLING: How do you communicate?

We are living in a world that is rapidly becoming full of information. There is an ever-increasingly number of people whose realities depend on the speed, accuracy and efficiency of communicating information. Access to information often determines our standard of living, the quality of our lives, and even many people’s survival.

In this information age, it seems nearly everyone has something to say about almost everything. Technology and its continual advances are making it easier and faster for us to communicate with anyone, anywhere in the world. However, many of the ways by which we communicate today don’t enable us to clearly communicate our real intentions and purpose.

We also need to remember that our forms of communicating information are nearly all based on the use and interpretation of words. What is even more important to realise is that we are often communicating with people we have never met, and are unlikely to ever meet. Dealing with this exact situation is what inspired this post.

After more than 30 years studying and researching natural health, healing, psychology, spirituality, philosophy, religion etc. I have become a man of very, very few spoken words. My previous post on silence hints at my desire to have everything be made pure and simple enough that it all goes without saying. But recent conversations have highlighted a few main obstacles to having silence become mankind’s default reality.

I recently had a conversation where it became necessary to make a clear distinction between ‘sharing the Truth’ and ‘telling the truth’. We must be very clear on whether we are sharing or telling, and whether those we are engaging with are capable of receiving what we share for what it is.

Sharing is based on the all-encompassing and all-embracing Truth. It is in celebration of all that we are and in honour of all that is. It radiates from the core of our Being as inspiration and compassion. Conversely, telling the truth is based on expressing opinions derived from unsubstantiated beliefs. Beliefs are not based on a direct conscious connection with the Laws, Dynamics and Processes that govern our reality. Instead they are based on interpretations of the theories and philosophies to which we subscribe.

In my eBook THE NATURE OF LIFE: How to remain at Peace while living in the modern world, I share what I call ‘The Conditions of Unconditional Sharing’. They spell out the mutually accepted codes by which we can communicate and share. The state of our world today is in complete contrast to these codes, hence the burgeoning level of conflict and confusion in society.

When we analyse all the information being communicated, we can see that the vast majority of it is of little or no consequence to the quality of our lives. On top of that, all the technology used to communicate information is no more essential to our survival than it was for our ancestors 200 years ago. In saying that, everything has its rightful place in our evolution, but when you look at the way many people communicate with each other these days, it is obvious humanity is regressing at an enormous rate.

This regression stems from our apparent incessant need to tell others our opinions. This is usually based on the dualistic and moralistic beliefs of the culture we are raised in. It seems that most of humanity’s attitude and behaviour are not free of some form of pride and prejudice. This is ironic, because regardless of how you look at it, we are all of the same origins and dependent on the very same factors to survive and thrive. This translates to us all being equal, which is the core Truth that needs to be honoured in order for any kind of sharing to take place.

Openly sharing your Truth in a world full of bias can turn the contents of what you share into a topic of hot debate, whether you like it or not. It is astounding how quick people are to comment on a contentious issue posted on social media. Most people find the need to judge or criticise another’s Truth, or truth, by telling their truth with a degree of righteousness and aggression. The common problem is that they have never met the person and are never likely to do so, so they have no real way of understanding their true intentions and reasoning.

The fact remains that we all communicate our truth relative to our points of view. The challenge we face is to be able to openly discuss any topic with everyone without any fear of reprisal. The only way this can be achieved is if everybody involved is able to consciously communicate their Truth from stillness, emptiness and silence. All the conflict and confusion in the world today will end as soon as everyone learns to honour The Conditions of Unconditional Sharing.

Despite your best efforts, people may take offence to what you share. Many are locked into a false reality where they are rebelling against some element of their life. They have a deep aversion to anyone telling them what to do, or how to think etc. Therefore, they are not open to correction at all. They may also misinterpret any expression of purity as an attempt to make yourself superior, or imply that they are in some way inferior. Hence the need to remain silent unless directly asked to share by someone who is genuinely open.

The answer appears to be minding your own business and living your life to the fullest. In so doing, you may become a living example and be a source of inspiration for others. When you do this, you answer the questions that others didn’t even know they had. The essence of your Being-ness, automatically embodies the purest form of sharing. Within this state, we can all be at Peace.

Brian Gerard Schaefer :)


If you want to understand how to consciously communicate and share freely, read THE NATURE OF LIFE: How to remain at Peace while living in the modern world. Click on the link below to purchase your copy of the eBook now.


Brian Gerard Schaefer is an author and a self-educated wholistic natural therapist, specialising in kinesiology, myopractic, spiritual counselling, diet and nutrition. He presents seminars and workshops on healing, kinesiology, meditation and personal development.